Wayang 15 : MELANCAP MANCAP CAP CAP - 3

 

 

 

iTS A lONG wEEKEND yaw!

eNJOY UR hOLIDay !

And .. Enjoy This 3rd Clip too!!

=)

 

 

 

 

 

Wayang 14 : MELANCAP MANCAP CAP CAP - 2

 

iTS A lONG wEEKEND !

eNJOY UR hOLIDay !

And .. Enjoy This 2nd Clip too!!

=)

 

 

 

 

 

SPECIAL : GENTLEMAN BY LEO

 

 

 

 

 

Di sebab kan Kelantan kalah Piala Malaysia.

Bagi menepati pertaruhan dgn 'somebody' yg sgt mean..

dan membuktikan 'janji tak di 3rd party'

enjoy..kuajaqqqqqq!!

 

 

 

 

Gambar 08 : KECOHH GAMBAR BOGEL JUSTIN BIEBER TERSEBAR LUAS !

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Gambar 07 : JUSTIN BIEBER SPECIAL

 

 

 Time running..

he's not a little boy anymore.

I really like his body build + tattoo !

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Wayang 13 : MELANCAP MANCAP CAP CAP - 1

 

 

iTS A lONG wEEKEND !

eNJOY UR hOLIDay !

And .. Enjoy This Clip too!!

=)





Gambar 06 : My Lil Bro Edition Ep 1

 

 

 

Love you all !!

cant wait till xmas .. missing u guys.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

My Advice : 002 - Am i GAY ?

 

 

 

 

Looking back, many men who identify as gay know they’ve been so for as
long as they remember. When they found the word gay and applied it to
themselves, no matter how or at what age this happened, they found
their whole lives suddenly clicked into place. They were different,
sensitive, subtly removed from the majority. Now they knew why. Had
they then asked themselves the question, ‘Am I gay?’ the only honest
answer would have been, ‘Yes. I am gay.’

Those are the especially lucky ones. For some, the question isn’t so
simple. At worst, self-acceptance may to them seem impossible. They
may passionately not want to be gay. It may seem to them downright
unfair. ‘Why me? Why can’t I be the same? Why should I be different?’
They don’t want to be marked for the rest of their lives – as they
perceive those lives – as subject to homophobic intolerance, more or
less on a par with those ‘gay’ trainers or that ‘gay’ top or that
‘gay’ hairstyle… And so on: the usual gamut of playground
fashion-mistakes, which had nothing to do with sexuality.

Most gay men will have felt such things to an extent, and for some of
those who reject their true sexual identity most forcefully during the
teenage years, self-acceptance will come with the greater perspective
age brings, together with a possible change of place. Some,
tragically, will never achieve this – but, since you’re reading this,
you’re not one of them. Just as long as you can honestly ask the
question you’re free to find the forms of love and sex that are right
for you, and not have to waste your life pretending to be something
you’re not.

Then there are others, perhaps the majority of males, who find
themselves attracted to other boys or men, particularly during
adolescence, who have a crush on a best friend or teacher, fantasise
while they masturbate or dream about gay sex. Does that necessarily
mean they are gay?

Of course not – though they should still feel free to ask the
question. All it means is that homosexuality is part of their human
nature. It may turn out to be the dominant part, or it may be that
their heterosexual side will predominate. It may be they will pass
through stages of being mainly gay or mainly straight. They may grow
to be most comfortable describing themselves as bi-sexual, or simply
as sexual.

How do you tell? If you’re asking yourself that question and you
genuinely aren’t sure? ‘Am I gay?’

You may well want a label: gay or straight or bi. If so, and you find
yourself consistently attracted to other males, while kissing the
opposite sex does little or nothing for you – if the sight of another
male’s body fills you with longing, with thoughts you can hardly
articulate, even overwhelms you – then, at the very least, you can
say: ‘For the moment, maybe forever, I’m gay.’

If you don’t feel you need a label, if you feel human sexuality is far
too complex to fix with just one word, you can try other formulae: ‘I
love men.’ ‘I wish only, or mostly, to have sex with men.’

Your choice of words needn’t matter. So long as you accept your
feelings and desires for what they are and don’t hide yourself from
yourself, then you will achieve happiness.

 

 

 

 

My Advice : 001 - Lover

 

 

What draws us, even compels us, to love and desire one person rather
than another? There will, no doubt, be a range of superficial
similarities: points of connection, looks, attitudes and interests
shared. But that’s the case with our friends as well – and we do not
usually look at our friends in the same way we regard our lover. One
convincing theory is that we see in our lover what could be termed a
point of difference, or the embodiment of aspects of ourselves and of
our own potential which are not fully accessible to us or with which
we are not reconciled – and to which we feel closer when we are with
that lover. It could be said that when we desire we see through a
glass darkly.

 

 

The rules of attraction
There is a wide range of influences over our initial sense of sexual
attraction to another person. Their looks, for example, are likely to
be close in some way to our own and those of our nearest relatives,
those who first taught us to love, and also to those of former lovers.
The moment we meet them matters: incidental, circumstantial details
can dictate whether or not two people get off to a flying start or
barely exchange a look or a word. And the points of connection do
matter: they form the basis of our first conversations and help
determine whether or not we feel this is an interesting person and one
with whom we’ll get on.

But then there is desire, which goes far beyond the attraction to
surface detail. If you described for yourself the key psychological
traits you have loved in each of your lovers, you might well find you
are describing a part of yourself that you aren’t quite in tune with –
or something you lack.

This has bearings on how you conduct and succeed in your relationships
and how, within relationships, you succeed or fail in being intimate
with your lover.

 

Here is one example. A man find himself drawn to men, especially
younger men, who have something of a self-centred streak about them.
When his relationships are not going well, he bemoans the ‘fact’ that
they only seem to care about themselves, won’t put out to take care of
his needs and wishes, only ever do what they want to do and seem
unable to empathise with others – save on a heavily, ‘deeply deep’
level, accompanied, as it were, by sweeping, romantic soundtracks, as
in Hollywood films. No prizes for guessing that this man is someway
apart from the centre of himself, is uncomfortable with his own
deepest emotions – has something of a nervous disposition, as it
happens – and ‘uses’ his lovers to heal this gap within himself.

A second example. Two men are in a long-term relationship. We’ll call
them Todd and Guy. They are 29 and 26 respectively. They row a lot. It
would be an understatement to say that Guy has something of a wild
streak. At the age of fifteen he basically decided he was going to
live it up. (He has recently returned to school.) Todd, on the other
hand, spent his adolescence in relative isolation. He doesn’t talk
about those years: it wasn’t a happy time. Now he is exceptionally
level headed, pulls in a six figure income and has life pretty much
planned. An odd couple. What’s kept them together so long? Well, yes:
each has something in his personality the other doesn’t quite have.
For all the high-tension dynamics of this relation, that difference
means this couple are mutually drawn.

One way of interpreting this ‘rule’ of attraction is to acknowledge
that relationships give us huge opportunities to grow and develop as
people. How boring, indeed deathly, it would be if were partnered with
someone exactly the same as us. We’d risk never becoming more than we
are already. We’d ossify. By being paired with people who have in the
foreground of their personalities those traits with which we are not
entirely comfortable, or which we’ve never experienced, in ourselves,
we are given the chance to develop those sides of our own
personalities – supported by the presence of our partner.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Conflict and intimacy

It is partly because of these differences between us – and,
specifically, because the differences are of personality traits which
are vitally important to us – that there is likely to be an element of
conflict within relationships. This is not to say that we’ll
inevitably row, or that rowing is healthy; it is to say that conflict
can arise in the presence of our partner precisely when we are most
aware of those traits that are actually drawing us to him.

Once this is understood, the experience of conflict can actually help
to draw us closer to our lover and to be more intimate.

This requires a degree of inner strength and also emotional maturity.
It is asking you to look within yourself for the quality you see in
your lover – or for the relative lack of that quality. In other words,
you need to be honest with yourself about yourself.

To return to our first example, one thing the man in question needs to
do is to reflect upon his own emotional centre. He could take time
sitting quietly, breathing deeply, relaxing and letting himself settle
– within whatever thoughts, feelings, desires and remembered
experiences he finds at the centre of his being. This will not obviate
the love of and desire for his partner – the personality of each will
always be differently emphasised. It will help him to find his way
closer to his lover. Crucially, it will help prevent him flying to an
opposite, radically de-centred extreme when the ‘self-centredness’ he
finds in his partner becomes all too much to bear, because so alien
and, to him, difficult.

In other words, where there is a conflict of personalities, within a
loving relationship, the root source of that conflict needs to be
located and resolved within the individual.

 

Where this process is engaged in, self-acceptance can be more fully
achieved, essential if we are to allow ourselves to feel intimate and
to allow other people to be intimate – bonded in deepest silence –
with us.

Short term relationships – and beyond

It is useful at this point to remark on those brief relationships
which often take place when we are young and only just emerging as a
sexually active being.

It could be said here, that in these brief, emotionally super-charged
affairs, we are seeking to gather experience, as much as we can and as
immediately as possible, so as to grow ourselves. We are
pre-programmed to reach out into life and seize it, all of it, as much
as we possibly can.

The experiences, aspects of personality, we seek are often fairly
rapidly gained at this point – at least, as much of them as we want at
this stage. We fall in and out of love, partly because the draw or
attraction is often relatively superficial in comparison to the
attachments we later seek.

There is nothing wrong with this. It is a natural part of growing up.
Still, to many, there comes the point where we do seek more permanent
relationships – and have indeed found ourselves consistently drawn to
similar personality ‘types’.

At that point, for the relationships to succeed, an understanding of
how our lovers’ psychologies are working, of these rules of
attraction, can, to say the least, help.